Comments on Foursons: Letters of Intent

Adult son #1 sounds like my sister. She hasn't sa...

2009-12-21T18:26:42.205-08:00

Adult son #1 sounds like my sister. She hasn't said a handful of words to my parents since March of this year. Nice, I know!

Hope things get better and I hope when you're locked out of the car, it's not too cold or at least there's a Starbucks near by!

Must be the season. My kids are driving me bonker...

2009-12-21T17:50:31.372-08:00

Must be the season. My kids are driving me bonkers too!

Just whip out a switch and go to town! Well, mayb...

2009-12-20T10:50:17.485-08:00

Just whip out a switch and go to town! Well, maybe half way to town? Just make sure the neighbors aren't looking, cause we don't want you to spend Christmas in jail on charges of beating your yard apes. That would suck. I am SURE that all your efforts in the past will not be in vain and that your 2 eldest will open their eyes, perhaps they already have and this is a little rebelious phase of "Why can't my "real" mom be like this?" My friend went through that with her step dad, and now they are closer than ever.

Then again, he is probably just being a half man/half boy, which he will remain to do until he is 40. :)

Oh girlie - I am dyyyying over here with Dan's ad...

2009-12-19T08:13:04.379-08:00

Oh girlie - I am dyyyying over here with Dan's advice! LOL

You know that once you write the next Letter of Intent to them, you'll be onto yet another stage for each of them right?

Sorry for the frustrations - one day at a time my friend. And grandkids will be your reward for not killing your children :)

how comforting it is to know that my kids aren't t...

2009-12-19T03:02:28.156-08:00

how comforting it is to know that my kids aren't the only ones. Thank you for that!

Oh Julie! Hang in there girl! I am having difficul...

2009-12-18T22:35:43.188-08:00

Oh Julie! Hang in there girl!
I am having difficulties with my kiddos too. The fighting,the sneeking of food and hiding the evidence, hunting for xmas presents, breaking in to my LOCKED scrapbook room, THE FIGHTING!! I have cancelled Christmas and if they don't start shaping up I am going to have to actually follow through or flush my credibility down the toilet!
*Hugs!*

way to get those boys in shape! I hope they listen...

2009-12-18T17:27:12.100-08:00

way to get those boys in shape! I hope they listen.
And it's funny but I was reading an article in Focus on the Family's magazine today about how a sense of entitlement is a problem with young adults today.

Wanna trade kids?

2009-12-18T15:15:19.915-08:00

Wanna trade kids?

I thought the whole point of the holiday season wa...

2009-12-18T13:32:57.986-08:00

I thought the whole point of the holiday season was to see how many barbs could be brought to the surface to fester. Sounds like your sons are doing a good job by that criteria. {*grin*}

BTW, all the behaviors you describe seem pretty normal to me after surviving the raising of (and not killing) a son past the teens. I often agreed with my friend who believed that from the age of 14 until 28, all male offspring should be locked in a closet with periodic helpings of raw meat thrown over the door. At 28 they can be let out and may even be good company.

What is it with 8?! Feather turned 8 a few weeks a...

2009-12-18T11:01:56.048-08:00

What is it with 8?! Feather turned 8 a few weeks ago and I am not sure she's going to make it to 9! And it's sad because she used to be such a nice girl! Great letters. But I may take my husbands advice and when the girls hit 13 they will be going to live with grandma. ;) I'm a little nervous now!

Those are some important letters...I hope they see...

2009-12-18T09:40:49.504-08:00

Those are some important letters...I hope they see them! Don't you hate when all you want is for someone to say I'm Sorry and they just won't do it! My oldest always acts like know so much more than his little brother...and they are only 16 months apart in age.

I am sure writing those was very therapeutic. I ne...

2009-12-18T09:38:56.588-08:00

I am sure writing those was very therapeutic. I need to get in on some of this. You know what I am talking about my friend:)

He locked you out of the car?! BAHAHAHA! Sorry, ...

2009-12-18T09:13:01.190-08:00

He locked you out of the car?! BAHAHAHA! Sorry, I'm sure you didn't think it was funny (but you gotta admit the little guy has some chutzpah!).

Whew, you have your hands full with those boys! I'd say I hope mine don't behave like entitled little $hits when they're older, but I'm sure that's what I have to look forward to. :(

Hope it gets better for ya. Just keep telling yourself "it's a phase." They'll straighten out. :)

Ohh Julie, you've had your hands full, huh? You d...

2009-12-18T09:02:27.782-08:00

Ohh Julie, you've had your hands full, huh? You don't deserve to be mistreated, especially by your own family. I hope he realizes soon that he owes you a BIG apology. **The treats are going straight to my hips the old-fashioned way . . . because I'm eating them all. Ugh.

boy do you have your plate full---no wonder you ne...

2009-12-18T07:43:13.145-08:00

boy do you have your plate full---no wonder you need white & red!!!:)

Oh, boys. Praying they all soften their hearts thi...

2009-12-18T07:13:36.532-08:00

Oh, boys. Praying they all soften their hearts this Christmas season.
And that cartoon is hilarious!

Ooh, Nolan, what a little stinker. I'm glad he's ...

2009-12-18T07:05:59.272-08:00

Ooh, Nolan, what a little stinker. I'm glad he's not close enough to teach Buddy how to do that.

I hope the older boys snap out of it and get their act together!!

I think all our kids need a good whackin' right no...

2009-12-18T06:00:15.636-08:00

I think all our kids need a good whackin' right now. What is it with them these days. We are a door mat to them. Will they read this post?

Yes, I am feeling more like scrooge as of late, th...

2009-12-18T05:43:03.001-08:00

Yes, I am feeling more like scrooge as of late, thanks for calling me out on it. OMG I got FOUR words for the mother of FOUR sons: YOU ARE A SAINT! I love that you wrote your letters to them this week, boys grow up to be bigger boys I see....One day....when they are 45-ish they will likely grow up and see how amazing you are and how lucky they were to have you in there lives right now putting up with their nonsense. Hang in there!(((HUGS)))

You whip those older two into shape! They are so ...

2009-12-18T05:23:24.230-08:00

You whip those older two into shape! They are so blessed to have you and someday they will realize it!

And to youngest son...dude, locking your mom out of the is NOT cool!

Good luck girlfriend. Sounds like you have your ha...

2009-12-18T05:16:53.311-08:00

Good luck girlfriend. Sounds like you have your hands fullll.

xoxo
Danielle

I'm waiting for the time that i too will be writin...

2009-12-18T04:36:08.650-08:00

I'm waiting for the time that i too will be writing such letters to my son (and future children). I can't wait.

Love the letters!

They are REALLY giving you a run for your money! ...

2009-12-17T22:12:04.730-08:00

They are REALLY giving you a run for your money!

Glad you have your letters of intent...cathartic!

I'm scouring and can't find what that boy did but ...

2009-12-17T22:01:27.475-08:00

I'm scouring and can't find what that boy did but my guess is something self-centered and insensitive.

Validation: You are a good person. You are a good mom, step or otherwise. No matter what he said, remember that he was "in the moment" and not seeing the big picture. It's not important and it's not true.

Just remember, someday he will have children, too. And, there's a pretty good chance he will also have stepchildren. (This would be a good time to rub you hands together and laugh the "evil laugh.")

I do not look forward to dealing with my kids when...

2009-12-17T21:32:30.889-08:00

I do not look forward to dealing with my kids when they are young adults. All the attitude that comes with "finding themselves."

I love your cartoon!